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.Friday, January 25, 2013 ' 2:16 PM Y
& I'm waiting

所谓的自尊,不适用于你爱的人

每个人的都有自己尊严的底线,而每个人都有拉不下脸来做的事。
有自尊、有原则是件好事,这奠定了一个人品格的高尚。
因自尊和原则而不被贪腐蚀证明了这个人良好的品格。
但如果这人是为了救自己爱的人而放下尊严、破坏原则,接受了他人的钱,那我们是否能断定他的品格有问题?
对于很多事情,我们都只因看到表面而胡乱猜测。
就像我们无法完全了解一个人,我们也无法完全理解一个故事。
因为这些故事总是参杂了各方面的观点。而观点不等于事实。
同样的,过度的守护自己的原则在别人的眼里也许成了无谓的固执,这时候的我们是否该想想看自己应该变通。凡事都该适可而止,找寻平衡。

但面对自己爱的人,请放下你的自尊。
人家说,维持一段爱情就是两个人迁就着对方。
迁就,带着理解。
而理解,总是带着那么一点容忍。
有时候一点的容忍与理解就能解决问题。
不要因为你高尚无比的自尊与原则而不肯让步。
如果你真的爱对方,那自尊等的东西都变得无所谓。
生命其实是如此的脆弱,不要等到来不及了才发现自己愚蠢的固执。
把握当下,坦诚的面对自己和你爱的人,幸福就在左右。



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.Friday, January 11, 2013 ' 11:11 PM Y
& I'm waiting

煩惱,因爲太在乎

有時候覺得,自己狠心點,什麽都不管,日子就會輕鬆點。
說真的,這。。其實可以不管我們的事。
但看著他們這樣,又不能不管。
這應該是做為學姐的責任吧。
但這角色似乎有點難扮演。
說太多又覺得自己過度干涉。有時遇到那些厭倦的表情,都讓我覺得很無奈。是我們說錯做錯了,還是他們長不大。而我們是否給了他們太多沒需要的壓力。
不說又覺得他們這樣下去也不是辦法,看他們煩惱也會不自覺地心疼,總覺得自己能幫就該幫。
也許真的是我們太自以爲,但是真正無知吧。
而許多人為了他人好而給了許多無形的壓力, 卻不曾發現自己已讓他人超過了極限。
也許,我們都忘了怎麽快樂,只是拼了命的拉扯自己的人生。
我相信每個人内心都有瘋狂的一面,而這瘋狂的一面不見得是件壞事。也許被壓力逼瘋了,釋放瘋狂的自己才無需繼續壓著自己過日子。
就像被認爲是大家眼裏的傻瓜也不是件壞事,因爲真正傻的可能是你。
這次我放手了,希望他們一切順順利利。
而我繼續儅我的傻瓜,繼續尋找瘋狂的自己。



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Luping is a lost child that has been seeking for her career direction since the first time someone asked her "What would you like to be when you grow up?", when she was still too tiny to reach the basin in her house. Despite reading books like What Should I Do with My Life: The True Story of People Who Answered the Ultimate Question by Po Bronson, she had been searching like a headless housefly (literally translated from 无头苍蝇) past graduation when she actually probably needed to find a job. Eventually, she found a job and a... direction.

For those who know Luping personally, she loves plushies/soft toys and is prepared to go on war with anyone who gets their hands on her babies. Her babies are personified with voices of hers and her Mummy's, and both of them enjoy framing the babies for things they obviously cannot do. When her Mummy suggested that if one day, the babies actually speak up, “那应该会吓死” (it would probably frighten one to death), she responded that she will instead “开心死” (be happy till death) if xiaofenhong (our cute, hot pink, flat bunny) replies her. That is the extent of her loneliness love for her babies.

And for those who know Luping as Amethyst, she is a rather huge fangirl of the Korean boy band, Super Junior. So much that she learnt (and is still learning - 반가워요!) Korean in hope of understanding what they say without subtitles and avoiding the losses in translation. She has been a fanfic writer for two years and counting, which sparked off her interest in writing and thus, this blog to practise writing so that one day, she might have the courage to apply for a (content) writer position or send in a manuscript to a publisher.

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